Where has Humanity come to ?

Jisha, a 29-year-old law student at the Government Law College, Ernakulam, was found murdered on April 28, 2016. She was raped and murdered at her house between 2 p.m. and 5 p.m

Jisha had a severe head injury and wounds were found on her chest and face. Jisha’s vagina was slashed over 20 times and her intestines and abdominal organs were pulled out. To ensure her death, her rapist/rapists smothered her. It is assumed that the house was broken into and a fight ensued between Jisha and her rapist.

Where are we heading towards? 


Do we really live in a civilized society? Do we have a minimum level of humanity left within ourselves? We should seriously think about it now.... We are so busy reading the news of celebrity marriage, elections, cricket matches etc ... We are celebrating / highlighting our achievements.. We are not even bothered that we are loosing our very basic human qualities day by day.. We should be ashamed of ourselves... It's just high time !!!!

I don't know why can't we put strict rules in our country, Nirbhaya case became sensational in our country on that time media and politicians became very revolutionary after few months everything fizzled out we were back to normal.
Only at the time of incident they react, later they don't have time to even think about the prevention, so sad... Punishment has to be severe to those guys who commit a hideous crime Such as Rape, these guys  have to suffer through out their lives...


This is nothing but cruelty! Cruelty shown by our Indian Government towards women. If they do something terrifying to one rapist and MAKE SURE that the public is aware of what they do to such an animal, the other guys who even think of a woman in a dirty way will be scared. But all they focus on is elections, how to win votes and how to loot the nation. Such a shame! At the most the rapists get life imprisonment or death sentecne. If it is a death sentence, there is another case filed and then it drags on to become life sentence. By that time the guy also applies for bail and is then let out to roam freely as they please. 
It took 5 years for the judiciary to  give judgement for those two brothers who gave their lives to defent their women friends who were harassed. That's the kind of country we live in. There are many more cases where the victim remains silent because of our wonderful society's branding. If there is going to be no immediate action from the government even after this I am sorry to say, none of our sympathies are going to have effect, because evidently, no one cares! 

I don't care what people think, but personally I feel there is no future for women in our country. Why would any human being be in a place where you are neither given respect, nor security or anything that supports you? It is best that we leave and never come back instead of facing and seing out fellow sisters suffer. Change? our country should have changed when nirbhaya happened. and yet here is India who has lost another precious daughter to the brutal filthy animal-like sons she bore.


Justice needed

What the hell is happening to this country.
This could happen to anyone, please be safe.
We are living among Wolfe's.


Female's life is pathetic... 
Always parents have to ensure safety of girl's... Worst is even kids are not spared whether it's a gal or boy... This will continue.. Till strict laws are not passed by government...but again human rights.. To give another chance to accused... Have they ever thought of giving  chance to victims... It should be stopped for a change... And give try to strict laws... Things will change

This is something which should get the priority by our lawmakers and judicial system n so also media n society as a whole.No human should be subjected to such barbaric violence and no culprit to be spared!

India is called itself Bharat Mata .and yet every day one child ,one women gets rape everyday because we as a society have failed to bring up our boy to respect a women.

All the young mothers should take it upon themselves to atleast make their son a sensitive human being....one who would know that women are to be respected.

A young life end so brutally . So sad.


Rapist just don't get the factor of fear before the brutal acts because of the very less probability of getting caught or being revealed by the victim as well the the punishment system of India...
according to ME.. the real factor of FEAR can be brought to them by changing the method of punishment when caught...i am talking about "PENECTOMY"(surgical amputation of penis)!!!...just once this is done to the RAPISTS and the news is spread over..i am sure the rapists who leave free as well as the people who even thinks of rape will MISS A HEART BEAT !!!!! and this can bring a FALL on the INCREASING graph of INDIA'S RAPE .

Written by 
Madhu Anand Chandhock
madhuc24@yahoo.com

Where has Humanity come to?

Few days back I read this n shocked to know about this Arabic Rape game TAHARTUSH.

Taharrush is an example of an inhuman and neanderthal act of violence and sexual harassment against women that has devolved the human race and women's rights by a thousand years.

Having barely been reported by the media before last year, Taharrush has been practiced by middle-eastern men for over a decade, perhaps longer. The filthy game recently made news after a number of such incidents were reported in Germany this New Year's Eve

N now this new so called  Islamic Fatwa . that a Father can have lust for his daughter if she is 9 years old. This is so disgusting, shameful thought . Anybody following this is clearly an insane , an evil person. A Father should protect his daughter . There is no kind of affection so purely angelic as of a father to a daughter.

http://www.terrorscoop.com/new-islamic-fatwa-fathers-lust-daughter-not-sin-daughter-9-years-old/?utm_campaign=shareaholic&utm_medium=facebook&utm_source=socialnetwork

A woman is not an object. She is not something; she is someone. You treat a woman with respect. She is not your toy. She doesn't owe you anything just cause you are a man. When she come to you for comfort, you listen to her; you dont make a move on her. Grow up and start treating women how they deserve to be treated.

A woman brought you into this world therefore you have no right to disrespect her by making these type of Fatwa. How can some bunch of Islamic people  can make these type of statements on behalf of the entire Islam. Islam doesn't teach you this ( in fact no religion teaches you this ) . I think they should be put behind the bar for Maligning the reputation of Women n Islam.

Written by 

Madhu Anand Chandhock

madhuc24@yahoo.com

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Hope : Hold on pain ends 😀

Hope : Hold on pain ends 😀

Everyone have Their own definition of pain. Some see their loved ones going away, some see their dreams dying, whereas some never get an opportunity to distinguish between happiness and sorrows. 

Chronic Illnesses, unfortunately, there are so many wonderful people who are suffering and don't say anything, and it hurts. No one takes the time to really ask them how they feel & If they ever ask for namesakes then they Never bother to do anything about it. They are just expecting you to say "I'm fine"-- the lie we tell every single day of our lives.

Sometimes it’s better to be silent than to tell others as to what you feel. Because it hurts badly when you come to know that they can hear you but cannot understand. 

I have seen a young man in 40s on his death bed. And the pain he had was not that he was about to die, but the pain he had was the worries about what will happen to his wife and children after he is gone! 

That's the exact pain,I have seen in many people dying of small illness because they were too poor to spend a few thousands on their treatments.

What is Pain ?

Pain is :

*When a poor guy doesn't have food to eat ..

*When A poor lady has to sell her body for the survival of her family ...

*When a poor old man who loses his family ..

*When you think you are the only one who is suffering and forget what you have, I understand what you are going through and it is painful .. but you have what other folks don't have, Respect what you have and try to forget what you don't have or can't get !!

But defining pain doesn't do anything good. If you want to give meaning to your life, find the definition of happiness in your life, and try to get it. 

How to cope up with pain?

You know what truly hurts/aches? Having so much inside you and not having the slightest clue of how to pour it out.

But pain's like water. It finds a way to push through any seal. There's no way to stop it. Sometimes you have to let yourself sink inside of it before you can learn how to swim to the surface.

Crying is like a thundershower for the soul. The air feels so wonderful after the rain. Don’t think too much. Breathe. Don’t be harsh or demanding on yourself. Just experience your feelings and know that your tears are announcing change in your life. 

Change is coming; like a summer rain — to wash away your pain. Have faith that things are getting better.

"Whether you have a need that isn't being met, an old wound that's been reopened, a person in your life who is making you feel small, a painful memory of something from the past, or an emptiness from the loss of someone you care about..." ALL of these things would happen at the same time.

Maybe not giving up, just taking a little or a long break.... I guess every day is a battle over this question, and the answer is always "not today, you can handle a little more, just hold on.

3 simple ways to reduce ur pain 

1)Do some gentle exercise

Simple, everyday activity like walking, swimming, gardening and dancing can ease some of the pain directly by blocking pain signals to the brain.

2)Distract yourself

Shift your attention onto something else so the pain isn’t the only thing on your mind. Get stuck into an activity that you enjoy or find stimulating. Many hobbies, like photography, sewing or knitting, are possible even when your mobility is restricted.

3)Share your story about pain

It can help to talk to someone else who has experienced similar pain themselves and understands what you’re going through.

Just like how I am sharing my views and thoughts in order to better our fellow Human beings. Same way even you can touch Many people who are suffering from Pain. Help them and your will be helped too.

Written by 

Madhu Anand Chandhock 

madhuc24@yahoo.com

Don't allow others to take you for granted

Someone once said “Never take someone for granted, hold every person close to your heart because you might wake up one day and realize that you have lost true diamond while you were too busy collecting stones“.

Every once in a while we all are taken for granted. We might not notice and we might not care, especially when it is done by people close to us: family, friends. But when it happens on a regular basis it hurts badly.

Can you change it? Yes, you can.

Do you want to change it? That’s up to you.

Sometimes it is wise to let people take you for granted. Sometimes it is what you want or what you need. Sometimes it is even what you love. But then sometimes things you love turn into things that hurt you. Then a moment comes when you have to act.

How to know when you are being taken for granted?

1) You always are there to offer your help, yet when last time you were the one in need everyone you called up was busy.

2) Your friends won’t return any favor. Ever.

3) You listen to people’s problems but there is nobody to listen to yours.

4) Your efforts don’t get even a simple thanks.

5) No matter how much you contribute people always want you to do more. Extra pay? Some appreciation? You are funny, really!

6) You feel not cared enough for, not loved enough, ignored, neglected.

7) People assume you will always be there and each time you are not is taken as a personal offense.

8)You notice that people forget to tell you things that matter.

9)People don’t care what you do unless they need you to do something for them.

You said YES to more than 3 points in the list? That’s a warning sign. Maybe you should think about making yourself noticed and listened to.

What you can do about being taken for granted?

I) Do not panic and do not make assumptions

2) It might all have a very logical explanation. If you freak out and get mad for no reason it will make things only worse.

3) Talk about it

4) Don’t hold it in. But don’t sound accusing or blaming. Just talk. The relationships begin to die when we stop talking about things that matter.

5) Stop being nice all the time

6) You are human. You have emotions. You can get mad, you can be sad, you can be upset. If people know how you feel they won’t take it for granted.

7) Learn to say ‘no’

As hard as it seems it is still possible. Give it a try. Start with smaller things. People will take you for granted only as long as you let them. Saying ‘no’ is the first step on the road of not letting them do it.

Do not compromise with your self-respect

Ever. You are better than this.

Question your motives

Don’t expect praise and appreciation. You do things for yourself because you like helping people out, not because you want them to help you later. Or don’t you?

Treat people as you want to be treated

Old cliché, maybe, but it does work. Before blaming someone for taking you for granted, see if you do it the same way.

Stand your ground and draw boundaries

You are a good person. You are a good friend. You know that. They know that. Now it’s time to be strong for yourself.

When you say ‘no’ to someone the world won’t turn upside down. It will be at the exact same place. You should realize that whatever is meant to happen will happen. Good or bad.

You can’t run around giving people second and third chances. You can’t let them take advantage of you. You can’t be there for them always even when they let you down all the time.

Relationships are always worth fighting for but sometimes you can’t be the only one fighting. Sometimes, people need to fight for you.

Written by 

Madhu Anand Chandhock 

madhuc24@yahoo.com

http://madhu-bholi.blogspot.com

Operation Sankat Mochan, India is great.

On Thursday, 14 the July 2016,India launched Operation Sankat Mochan, a mission to rescue over 500 Indians stranded in South Sudan, a country witnessing heavy fighting between government soldiers and rebels.

On social media, it is being hailed as another superhuman rescue in the making, afterOperation Raahat last year, which was also commanded by Gen (Retd) Singh. The optics are perfectly in place – a retired Army Chief leading a daring rescue mission, to rescue stranded Indians from a strife-torn nation. 

After a week-long civil war claimed a large number of lives in Juba, capital of South Sudan, the Ministry of External Affairs has set in motion an airlift operation for hundred of Indian nationals who are stranded there.

Thanks to all those soldiers each n everyone for making operation SANKAT MOCHAN successful. We are proud of  all of them . We should thank not only Gen. V. K. Singh Sir but also to all the soldiers who have contributed in this evacuation.. Salute. Hats off to your effort. It's a incredible job . I can get proudly say that India is Great & fortunate to have leader like him.

Rescue operations had happened before but never had a minister flying personally with rescued people and taking it so personally. Well done. Never seen an effort of this scale, I must add.

May be there are  many problem in our country but when the question is about rescue INDIAN from any serious situation, our nation's real hero just reply through their effort "NO PROBLEM"...that's my INDIA.

Time has changed,  Indian Government values lives of it's countrymen working abroad more than before. 

Best part is it's leaders are leading from the front.

Great job Gen. V. K. Singh.

You deserve a big salute.

This proves again that where is will, there is way, salute...to general 

Don't forget contributions of Mrs sushama swaraj..

There are around 600 Indians in South Sudan, of them 450 are in Juba (capital city of South Sudan) and nearly 150 are outside Juba, Swaraj informed.

Written by 

Madhu Anand Chandhock 

madhuc24@yahoo.com

http://madhu-bholi.blogspot.com

Be strong

There will be times in your life where you’re challenged, where nothing seems to be going right, where tragedy strikes and you’re left to pick up the pieces.

Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.

In some cases, being strong is simply about being able to persevere through extreme adversity. It can be something horrific like the tragic loss of a loved one, or something difficult and trying like getting laid off. It can also be emotional trauma, like recovering from a divorce or a tough break up Or a long illnesses 

These experiences leave us feeling weak and hopeless. But that’s no reason to stay down for long. No matter what you’re going through in life, other people just like you have gone through the same or worse and come out stronger on the other side. It’s times like these you need to be strong and never give up .

 Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broke, hurt, have health issues, feeling lonely, think of those small children who left in orphanages by their own People/Parents, also think of those Elderly people staying in old age homes, one must feel content & lucky to have a Family and their loved ones by there side. We must Thank God for giving us this life.

No one will manufacture a lock without a key. Similarly. God won't give Problems without Solutions,So never Worry. Efforts always Succeed.......

Being strong isn’t just about being able to get through tragedy, its also about preparing yourself – both physically and mentally – for the tests that life will put us through. Its about developing the emotional and mental toughness that will allow us to not only get through tragedy and overcome pain ourselves – but allow us to be a beacon of strength for others.

The reason most people never achieve their dreams is because they simply give up. Life was never meant to be easy – its a constant struggle, with extreme lows and extreme highs. Remember that the times when its most important to persevere are the times that you will be most tested.

Many times, the only way to improve our lives is to force ourselves to undergo difficult change. That might mean breaking up and leaving a stale – but comfortable – relationship, leaving a mediocre – but stable – job, moving away from a nice – but uninspiring – location, or anything else that’s holding us back from accomplishing our dreams.

The past cannot be changed, forgotten, or erased. However, the lessons learned can prepare you for a brighter future.

“I think so many times we let our past dictate our future. It not only hurts our life, but it hurts the good people who want to become apart of it, too. 

Of course, dealing with uninvited change in our lives is often difficult and painful. In many cases, instigating major, but necessary, change in our life can be just as painful. But whatever change you’re dealing with, know that how you cope with that change will have an impact on your future.

True strength is keeping everything together when everyone expects you to fall apart.

As someone says Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!”

Forget all the reasons it won’t work and believe the one reason that it will.” - 

When you say “It’s hard”, it actually means “I’m not strong enough to fight for it”. Stop saying its hard. Think positive!” 

Sharing a few positive n inspiring thoughts which are always giving me strength when ever I feel low .

1)“Life is like photography. You need the negatives to develop.

If one Negative Photo can Create Unlimited numbers of Positive Prints. Why don't we look at our Negative Experience in Life & Have Something Positive Out of it:) 

2)We are like tea bags, whose true strength comes out when we are put in hot water, so when problems upset you. just stop & think... You must be God's Favorite cup of Tea :)

3)Where you are in life is temporary; where you end up in life is permanent; how you get from here to there is entirely up to you. Never give up!” 

4)“A beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset. When you wake up take a second to think about what a privilege it is to simply be alive and healthy. The moment you start acting like life is a blessing, I assure you that it will start to feel like one. Time spent living is time worth appreciating.”

5) "Always find a reason to laugh. It may not add years to your life but will surely add life to your years.”

Keep your heart open, your head high and your spirit free.  Embrace your darkness along with your light.  Be wrong every once in a while, and don’t be afraid to admit it.  Awaken to the brilliance in ordinary moments.  Tell the truth about youself no matter what the cost.  Own your reality without apology.  See goodness in the world.  Be Bold.  Be Fierce.  Be grateful.  Be wild, crazy and gloriously free.  Be you! Go now and live. 

 

Written by

Madhu Anand Chandhock

A write up on Suicidal Tendency

Life is Precious: why End it Prematurely ? Is Ending life,a Solution?

Pratushya Banerjee's death has Raised A lot of questions in mind, I do not know Whether this is a suicide or a murder, But Such News Leaves oneself Surrounded with many Thoughts. Suicide- Which means to end their lives in their own hands! Why do people Take Such Drastic Measures? Why is it that in a moment they become so helpless?. Why not think that their life is not just their own but their Family's too. 

Firstly, one Must not Forget that they are indebted to their Mother & father, who have not only given birth to them, but also devoted their entire life to accumulate happiness & good Life for their Children! As Parents they Would have had some dreams for themselves and their Children which were yet to be fulfilled. So why do some people only focus on just some dreams that are unfulfilled momentarily & commit such a heinous crime by Committing Suicide There by leaving all their Family Members Dreams & Hopes Shattered for life. Creating A Permanent void in their Lives.

Yes, According to my Views  Even suicide is also a crime. We have no right, to end our own life! Can u Imagine what a mother will go through who has Nurtured her Child in her womb for 9 months, who has shed tears for hours at the slightest injury of her child, Thereby Hurting Her & Leaving her to be Grieved in Sadness forever ! What can be more Devastating for Parents than listening & Witnessing their Young Children's Suicide(Death). If you did not receive the kind of love you  had expected from your Boyfriend, that doesn't mean you Forget all the love that you have received from your Parents, ​who had​ ​started loving​ you more than anyone even before your Birth,​have supported you at every stage of your life From your education to your career to your love life etc.​

Sometimes when i try to put myself into that person's shoes & i wonder ​that A person would have been so sad and depressed to have taken such a drastic step to end ones own life by committing suicide, on the other hand am forced to think &  see the reality that Sadness,daily life issues, monetary problems are all a part of everyone's lives in today's world. so is it correct to get scared/afraid of all these and instead of facing these situations boldly one opts an easier way out by ending ones life? Why cant we (Humans) Change ourselves by converting negativity into Positivity by focusing on our good ​deeds than bad?Why do people often act out of Emotional self than Practical self by taking wrong decisions?

​Most of the times i feel that the good gone olden days were the Golden days.​ When we used to think more than 100 times before taking any wrong steps/decisions. Most of the times those negative thoughts used to fade away due to the ​F​ear​/Respect​ of our parents(Mother, Father).

One more important thing i wish to share with all the parents is that, if a young boy/girl has to go away from their hometown for work/earn for their living then its my humble request that either of the parent or an elder member of the family should stay with them not to keep an eye on them but for moral support and security. As loneliness can be dangerous most of the times in an unknown new space/city. Plus at such an Adolescence/Tender age youngsters can sway away either ways good or bad.

Nowadays even the parents are quite liberal. L​ive​-​in relationships, which is a gift of​ western culture, ​we Indians​ ​have also begun to adopt. ​ 

I​ Cannot speak for others but according to me​ a lot of Our troubles,problems​ and wrong decisions (Like break-ups, suicides, divorces) are all perhaps due to this Live-in Relationships. Where in a boy and a girl Live together under one roof as husband and wife without being legally married/wedded.​

Perhaps having lived together for many years when they finally get married  and achieve an husband-wife tag officially they ​find nothing new​ in their relationship​. The good things or habits which seemed all right​ before marriage, suddenly starts to look/appear​ bad and wrong! Then starts the ​blame game and then begins a series of​ never ending battles ​between them. ​I wonder where Love disappears out of this relationship ! Patience Nowadays is rarely found in any of the human beings​​.

Value of  Spiritual need :

 Not only just Today's Youth/Generation but everyone in the modern world needs Spirituality & Awareness. They need Be alert and aware about the increasing consumption of Alcohol, Drugs,Smoking among-st the young Generation & their addiction towards these habits which in turn makes them shallow & weaker day by day. It's turning into a daily trend to be at par with the so called high Society norms. Which is very much wrong and totally uncalled for, as the Youth needs more focus on greater good of mankind and themselves. Being Modern and fashionable doesn't mean that one forgets their roots, where they belong, their family values and parental upbringing, Family members must have a sense of responsibility towards their off springs. If they notice any change or irregularities in their Children's behavior parents must reach to their Children and make themselves friendly and available for discussion and good advice if required & vice versa. This is the true essence of life one must always remember and cherish it.

There is been an increasing number of such suicide cases, where the causes are many. Betrayal in love, Health issues, Mass suicide (Unable to clear Family Debts/Loans), Dowry Harassment's are to name a few. These have been doing rounds on most of the News channels very frequently. For few days Media and Public tend to talk about it and then everyone seems to forget about what has  happened & Move on with their lives. But the word 'Suicide" remains very must alive at the same place under similar circumstances but moves on to different Family. 

In order to eradicate this so called "Suicide" disease, we must first change/Alter our thought process, we need to make ourselves Mentally, Emotionally so strong that no matter whatever the situation is we are firm and standing tall amidst all our Problems & Difficult times.

We face All our situations Boldly and not opt out the Suicidal route. It is not an intelligent Route/Step to opt for.

Time is a great Healer. Eventually Everything will pass with time.  

During such Adversities One often realizes Family Values and importance of being in a happy connected caring Family. Questions & Thoughts such as What were to happen of their Family members if one was to commit suicide etc etc must Arise in an individuals mind.

Being selfish most of the times and thinking only about ourselves and our needs is not a quality one portrays for loved ones. Instead we must shift focus on being selfless and care for others more often and hence avoid such drastic measures.

It is in here, Spirituality plays it's part aptly where we are reminded of our spiritual self, to chant of our Ancient proverbs, Mantras and Quotes from our spiritual Guru's/Saints/prophets. Practising Yoga and meditation helps yourself bring about a balance in our lifestyle.

One of my favourite Quote reads

"Mann ke Haare Haar hai, 

Mann ke Jeete Jeet hai."

Meaning If you loose your sanity you loose your self. In your mind if u think u are a looser, you will always be a looser, on the contrary if you think you are a winner you will always be one. One must concentrate on Strengthening his/her mind. 

With remorse I am to believe that a young life (Of Pratyusha) is come to an end. I wish if she was alive, if she did not take such drastic step, what if it did not end this way. These "IF's' only raise many more Questions But Only if all the "IF's" had any answers ever in this world.

Written by 

Madhu Anand Chandhock