Life is Precious: why End it Prematurely ? Is Ending life,a Solution?
Pratushya Banerjee's death has Raised A lot of questions in mind, I do not know Whether this is a suicide or a murder, But Such News Leaves oneself Surrounded with many Thoughts. Suicide- Which means to end their lives in their own hands! Why do people Take Such Drastic Measures? Why is it that in a moment they become so helpless?. Why not think that their life is not just their own but their Family's too.
Firstly, one Must not Forget that they are indebted to their Mother & father, who have not only given birth to them, but also devoted their entire life to accumulate happiness & good Life for their Children! As Parents they Would have had some dreams for themselves and their Children which were yet to be fulfilled. So why do some people only focus on just some dreams that are unfulfilled momentarily & commit such a heinous crime by Committing Suicide There by leaving all their Family Members Dreams & Hopes Shattered for life. Creating A Permanent void in their Lives.
Yes, According to my Views Even suicide is also a crime. We have no right, to end our own life! Can u Imagine what a mother will go through who has Nurtured her Child in her womb for 9 months, who has shed tears for hours at the slightest injury of her child, Thereby Hurting Her & Leaving her to be Grieved in Sadness forever ! What can be more Devastating for Parents than listening & Witnessing their Young Children's Suicide(Death). If you did not receive the kind of love you had expected from your Boyfriend, that doesn't mean you Forget all the love that you have received from your Parents, who had started loving you more than anyone even before your Birth,have supported you at every stage of your life From your education to your career to your love life etc.
Sometimes when i try to put myself into that person's shoes & i wonder that A person would have been so sad and depressed to have taken such a drastic step to end ones own life by committing suicide, on the other hand am forced to think & see the reality that Sadness,daily life issues, monetary problems are all a part of everyone's lives in today's world. so is it correct to get scared/afraid of all these and instead of facing these situations boldly one opts an easier way out by ending ones life? Why cant we (Humans) Change ourselves by converting negativity into Positivity by focusing on our good deeds than bad?Why do people often act out of Emotional self than Practical self by taking wrong decisions?
Most of the times i feel that the good gone olden days were the Golden days. When we used to think more than 100 times before taking any wrong steps/decisions. Most of the times those negative thoughts used to fade away due to the Fear/Respect of our parents(Mother, Father).
One more important thing i wish to share with all the parents is that, if a young boy/girl has to go away from their hometown for work/earn for their living then its my humble request that either of the parent or an elder member of the family should stay with them not to keep an eye on them but for moral support and security. As loneliness can be dangerous most of the times in an unknown new space/city. Plus at such an Adolescence/Tender age youngsters can sway away either ways good or bad.
Nowadays even the parents are quite liberal. Live-in relationships, which is a gift of western culture, we Indians have also begun to adopt.
I Cannot speak for others but according to me a lot of Our troubles,problems and wrong decisions (Like break-ups, suicides, divorces) are all perhaps due to this Live-in Relationships. Where in a boy and a girl Live together under one roof as husband and wife without being legally married/wedded.
Perhaps having lived together for many years when they finally get married and achieve an husband-wife tag officially they find nothing new in their relationship. The good things or habits which seemed all right before marriage, suddenly starts to look/appear bad and wrong! Then starts the blame game and then begins a series of never ending battles between them. I wonder where Love disappears out of this relationship ! Patience Nowadays is rarely found in any of the human beings.
Value of Spiritual need :
Not only just Today's Youth/Generation but everyone in the modern world needs Spirituality & Awareness. They need Be alert and aware about the increasing consumption of Alcohol, Drugs,Smoking among-st the young Generation & their addiction towards these habits which in turn makes them shallow & weaker day by day. It's turning into a daily trend to be at par with the so called high Society norms. Which is very much wrong and totally uncalled for, as the Youth needs more focus on greater good of mankind and themselves. Being Modern and fashionable doesn't mean that one forgets their roots, where they belong, their family values and parental upbringing, Family members must have a sense of responsibility towards their off springs. If they notice any change or irregularities in their Children's behavior parents must reach to their Children and make themselves friendly and available for discussion and good advice if required & vice versa. This is the true essence of life one must always remember and cherish it.
There is been an increasing number of such suicide cases, where the causes are many. Betrayal in love, Health issues, Mass suicide (Unable to clear Family Debts/Loans), Dowry Harassment's are to name a few. These have been doing rounds on most of the News channels very frequently. For few days Media and Public tend to talk about it and then everyone seems to forget about what has happened & Move on with their lives. But the word 'Suicide" remains very must alive at the same place under similar circumstances but moves on to different Family.
In order to eradicate this so called "Suicide" disease, we must first change/Alter our thought process, we need to make ourselves Mentally, Emotionally so strong that no matter whatever the situation is we are firm and standing tall amidst all our Problems & Difficult times.
We face All our situations Boldly and not opt out the Suicidal route. It is not an intelligent Route/Step to opt for.
Time is a great Healer. Eventually Everything will pass with time.
During such Adversities One often realizes Family Values and importance of being in a happy connected caring Family. Questions & Thoughts such as What were to happen of their Family members if one was to commit suicide etc etc must Arise in an individuals mind.
Being selfish most of the times and thinking only about ourselves and our needs is not a quality one portrays for loved ones. Instead we must shift focus on being selfless and care for others more often and hence avoid such drastic measures.
It is in here, Spirituality plays it's part aptly where we are reminded of our spiritual self, to chant of our Ancient proverbs, Mantras and Quotes from our spiritual Guru's/Saints/prophets. Practising Yoga and meditation helps yourself bring about a balance in our lifestyle.
One of my favourite Quote reads
"Mann ke Haare Haar hai,
Mann ke Jeete Jeet hai."
Meaning If you loose your sanity you loose your self. In your mind if u think u are a looser, you will always be a looser, on the contrary if you think you are a winner you will always be one. One must concentrate on Strengthening his/her mind.
With remorse I am to believe that a young life (Of Pratyusha) is come to an end. I wish if she was alive, if she did not take such drastic step, what if it did not end this way. These "IF's' only raise many more Questions But Only if all the "IF's" had any answers ever in this world.
Written by
Madhu Anand Chandhock
